hmacmahony
Mouseketeer
- Joined
- Oct 31, 2007
We all have our opinions, and I truely love nothing more than a great debate about, well, pretty much anything.
we did lots of talking to people in this same situation, and I have yet to talk to anyone who held their child to be the tallest, or smartest. As, most people know, that edge goes away by about 3 grade.
I am sure there are people out there who have held the child to be the tallest, better in sports, etc, but in the same breath, there are people out there who are being told that their 4 year old is just not ready for kindergarten, keep them home a year, but the parents send them anyway because well, the cutoff tells them they should be in kindergarten.
I don't think the answer to this is a black and white date, I think it is a case by case basis. But, I honestly think the people who are holding a child to be the tallest, smartest, in the class are VERY VERY rare, I think the bulk of parents just want the child to have a wonderful first year of school, and learn to love school, not to struggle when that struggle could of been avoided.
we did lots of talking to people in this same situation, and I have yet to talk to anyone who held their child to be the tallest, or smartest. As, most people know, that edge goes away by about 3 grade.
I am sure there are people out there who have held the child to be the tallest, better in sports, etc, but in the same breath, there are people out there who are being told that their 4 year old is just not ready for kindergarten, keep them home a year, but the parents send them anyway because well, the cutoff tells them they should be in kindergarten.
I don't think the answer to this is a black and white date, I think it is a case by case basis. But, I honestly think the people who are holding a child to be the tallest, smartest, in the class are VERY VERY rare, I think the bulk of parents just want the child to have a wonderful first year of school, and learn to love school, not to struggle when that struggle could of been avoided.
I completely agree with you in the above cases. The children had medical/speech etc. issues. What I am talking about is parents who simply want their kids to be "gifted" so they send them a year later because in their head Johnny and Suzy just aren't ready for the big bad world of Kindergarten. They tell themselves they are giving their kid the gift of time but what they really are doing is not letting them go so they can keep them home another year. Look, I will be the first to tell you that I hate when my kids are in school. I love them home with me all the time. I do not look foward to the end of summer vacation, spring break etc. I truly enjoy them and I like to think most people enjoy their kids. The people I am talking about and yes, they are even here on the Dis are the ones who say "my baby isn't tall enough, I want her to have an edge, I want a leader, he's a boy and all boys are immature" etc. That is just hogwash. These parents are thinking with their emotions without thinking what is going to be best for the child overall, not just at that moment. If your child has a real issue then you must do what is best for the child, but if it is just because you can't let go then you are not doing your child any favors. Keep in mind this is coming from someone who sat with the principal for 2 hours (tears and all) before I would even register my child for school because I needed to know who would be taking care of my baby. It is hard to let them go, but it is part of what we have to do. JMHO.