I am a HUGE fan of the Wilderness Lodge..you will love it! My brother was at OKW several years ago, and we spent time visitng him there, so I am familiar with that resort also. I just think that the Lodge is spectacular...it is beautiful and relaxing but also more accesible to the parks. You have just a water launch over to MK. You are able to take the walking or bike trail over to Ft. Wilderness..which is great fun also. If you have any Hoop Dee Doo reservations at Pioneer Hall...also just the boat Launch over there to. Bus to the other parks..we haven't had any complaints with the busses. OKW is beautiful, but sort of removed from things disney, in my opinion. It has it's own golf course if that is of interest to you.
Of course, in the Lodge, all of your dining and lobby and room are all in one unit...so if it is a rainy day...your no walking anywhere in the bad weather just to get a bite to eat. I personally like having the beautiful lobby...you've just got to see it..to sit and people watch in. Go for the lodge...you won't regret it..!