husband kissing women friends on the lips

[ez]

I love and completely trust my husband and we have been married over 20 years. We go out on our motorcycle and visit biker hangouts on the weekends. We have made many friends doing this, although we really know little about them and dont see them outside of these bars. Sometimes I will hug the men and even kiss their cheek. It bothers me though that there are a couple women that my husband will give a big kiss on the lips too, both when we arrive and leave. Sometimes I feel like the women shoot me a questioning look like..."was that ok with you?" Anyway for some reason this makes me uncomfortable, I feel like a hug or peck on the cheek is appropriate but a big kiss on the lips is a bit much. Something about it is just embarrassing to me. Maybe I am overreating, and I hope any married woman out there will share your thought. I dont want to be a contolling or possessive wife, however bear in mind, these are just aquaintances not lifelong friends. If enough of you agree with me I plan on showing him this thread, just to prove its not me being overly possessive. otherwise Ill let things lie. tahanks for your imput!

 

[Hedy]

Weird, definitely weird.

 

[WDWisTheBest]

I love and completely trust my husband and we have been married over 20 years. We go out on our motorcycle and visit biker hangouts on the weekends. We have made many friends doing this, although we really know little about them and dont see them outside of these bars. Sometimes I will hug the men and even kiss their cheek. It bothers me though that there are a couple women that my husband will give a big kiss on the lips too, both when we arrive and leave. Sometimes I feel like the women shoot me a questioning look like..."was that ok with you?" Anyway for some reason this makes me uncomfortable, I feel like a hug or peck on the cheek is appropriate but a big kiss on the lips is a bit much. Something about it is just embarrassing to me. Maybe I am overreating, and I hope any married woman out there will share your thought. I dont want to be a contolling or possessive wife, however bear in mind, these are just aquaintances not lifelong friends. If enough of you agree with me I plan on showing him this thread, just to prove its not me being overly possessive. otherwise Ill let things lie. tahanks for your imput!

Why don't you just tell him that he shouldn't be doing that. It is not acceptable behavior. You are not wrong, expecially since these are aquaintances only. Good idea to show him the thread.

 

[disykat]

I think that not only is that disrespectful to you, it is also disrespectful to the women he's kissing unless he has their permission.

 

[SydSim]

I work with a woman whose husband used to do that to all of the other women at the holiday parties. It made me feel quite uncomfortable.

That being said, my neighbors always greet us with a kiss on the cheek. I find that quite endearing.

I totally understand what you're saying.

 

[wdwmom2]

I feel like a hug or peck on the cheek is appropriate but a big kiss on the lips is a bit much.

That type of affection or greeting should be reserved for you. If he never greeted anyone like this before you started meeting these people, I would ask him why he felt like he needed to start doing it now .

My DH and I's close male friends get a hug and a peck on the cheek when I haven't seen them in a while. No need to get anymore personal than that IMHO!!!

 

[helenabear]

I totally get what you are saying... I know some people who greet most friends and family that way. I don't like it

I would just tell your DH and he can either try to avoid it or tell them it makes him uncomfortable. I know some are really big on kissing and see nothing wrong with it at all, i personally just don't like it.

 

[L107ANGEL]

just tell him you don't like it

 

[CEDmom]

That's just wrong . Tell him unless he enjoys getting kneed he better watch out how he's kissing people .

 

[Pop Daddy]

my sil kisses me on the lips all the time, I spit as soon as she turns away

 

[Luv'sTink]

I would not like it either.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I wouldn't take it as well as you have! Someone would be bleeding...

I'd tell him your don't like it and that you would rather he ceased doing such things.

 

[Liberty Belle]

My husband has only once kissed one of my friends on the lips and it was New Years Eve and that friend kissed me on the lips, too.

I'd most likely have a problem with it if he did it often. Unless, of course, he could explain himself so that I'd feel comfortable, but I can't see that happening.

 

[Acklander]

Personally, it wouldn't bother me, but I'm weird that way. I'm assuming it's no big deal to him (which is why he's comfortable doing it). Since you're uncomfortable with it, that should be reason enough for him not to do it - especially if it doesn't matter either way to him.

 

[terri01p]

My dh kissing other women on the lips, yea not going to happen, that's just plain out of control, I would be ramming that motorcycle up . Seriously why didn't you just ask him the first time you seen him do that, " hey what are you doing " ?

 

[dmslush]

Nope, that wouldn't fly with me. My fiance would do that once, and then I wouldn't have to worry about it again, because I would remove his lips from his face LOL

Seriously, tell your husband that you would prefer that full on lip kissing be reserved just for the two of you.

 

[Missy Mouse]

I think if you need to DIS about it, you already know the answer. It makes you uncomfortable and that is reason enough to ask him to stop. After 20 years of marriage he should have no problem complying if it's an innocent kiss.

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

It depends on the kiss. Is it a peck or is it boarding on making out.

 

[Disney Doll]

If it's a typical "greeting kiss"...a quick peck...lips, cheek...who cares?

However, if it seems to be more than that, I'd discuss it with him provately and let him know it makes me uncomfortable.

 

[JunieJay]

It actually wouldn't bother me but DH is not the type to do it so its a non-issue.

But if it bothers you I really think you should say something. He probably dioesn't even realize it bothers you.