Age of ring bearer and flower girl?

[TheDisneyGirl02]

How old were/are your ring bearer and flower girl? My DF and I are trying to decide if we should have his little cousin who will be almost 2 years old as our ring bearer as well as my friend's daughter who will be a year and a half in our wedding.

Any thoughts?

Thanks in advance!

 

[Skylarr29]

My thoughts are that is too young. Especially without an older child to help them down. They wouldn't be able to stand/stay during a ceremony. They can go sit with their parents but I don't know if they will make it down the aisle... it would be cute even if they didn't make it all the way down as long as you wouldn't mind the disruption. My ring bearer and flower girl were 7 and 5.

 

[DISNEYMAGIC2005]

I wanted a flower girl and ring bearer but I don't have any kids who are old enough or young enough. DF was saying that maybe we could just recruit some little kids when we get to WDW ...

 

[TheDisneyGirl02]

My thoughts are that is too young. Especially without an older child to help them down. They wouldn't be able to stand/stay during a ceremony. They can go sit with their parents but I don't know if they will make it down the aisle... it would be cute even if they didn't make it all the way down as long as you wouldn't mind the disruption. My ring bearer and flower girl were 7 and 5.

Thank you for the advice. I gues I should have mentioned that the little possible flower girl's mommy is one of my bridesmaids so I was thinking she could walk down the aisle with her. As far as the ring bearer, he LOVES his great-nana, who happens to be my DF grandmother so I was thinking about having her step out into the aisle and he would probably run to her.

There is a chance I maybe having a junior bridesmaid who will be 8 at the time of the wedding. She is the daughter of one of my good friends who is supposed to be a bridesmaid, however she is having some money problems right now so I'm not sure if she will be able to be in the wedding or not, which would mean her daughter wouldn't be in the wedding either.

I'm having a tough time deciding right now so any insight would really help!

 

[LovelyPrincess432]

I would have someone help them down the isle if you want to include them. I definitely understand your want to include them in your special day. I'm finishing up my certification in early childhood education and have had lots of experience working with kids at that age... they can be pretty unpredictable. So you may want them to walk down the isle, and they may decide right then that they aren't going to.

 

[TheDisneyGirl02]

I wanted a flower girl and ring bearer but I don't have any kids who are old enough or young enough. DF was saying that maybe we could just recruit some little kids when we get to WDW ...

LOL!!! That is great!!! It's like "you with the mouse ears, would you like to be a flower girl?"

 

[Skylarr29]

I think as long as you expect the unexpected then it can work. As long as you are easy going and know kids will be kids. I love little ones and would think it would be sweet. Also, the ring bearer pillow gets fake rings (don't give the 1 year old the real rings lol, if there was any question about that) Good Luck! At first I had 4 flower girls but then the 3 sisters couldn't make the trip but I wanted a lot of little girls running around.

 

[TheDisneyGirl02]

I think as long as you expect the unexpected then it can work. As long as you are easy going and know kids will be kids. I love little ones and would think it would be sweet. Also, the ring bearer pillow gets fake rings (don't give the 1 year old the real rings lol, if there was any question about that) Good Luck! At first I had 4 flower girls but then the 3 sisters couldn't make the trip but I wanted a lot of little girls running around.

Don't worry...the ring bearer will be carrying 'fake' rings! He is so cute, but it's never a good idea to trust a 2 year old with real rings!

Before I make my mind up for sure, I think I'll talk it over with both Mom's to see how they would feel about it.

Thanks for the great advice, everyone!

 

[pink_tink8i8]

My ring bearer is going ot be 18 months and my flower girl almost 24 months

 

[beach bride 2010]

There is a chance I maybe having a junior bridesmaid who will be 8 at the time of the wedding. She is the daughter of one of my good friends who is supposed to be a bridesmaid, however she is having some money problems right now so I'm not sure if she will be able to be in the wedding or not, which would mean her daughter wouldn't be in the wedding either.

I'm having a tough time deciding right now so any insight would really help!

Could the 8 year old be your flower girl? I teach 7 and 8 year olds and several have been flower girls in their relatives' weddings. They absolutely love it and are old enough to do a good job. I wish I had a 5-8 yr old relative to be my flower girl. I think that is the perfect age.
I haven't decided yet if I want a flower girl but if I do she will be 4 1/2 but is developmentally delayed and I don't think she would go down the aisle on her own. I will have her mother escort or carry her down the aisle even if mom isn't in the wedding party. If I decide to have a ring bearer he will be 4 but I know he could handle it. His brother will be 15-18 months depending on what we pick for our date and I think that is too young.

 

[Lindsay22]

We are having two ring bearers and a flower boy. The ring bearers are 1 1/2 and 4 1/2. The flower boy is 1 1/2. We wanted them included in the wedding and when we asked them we understood how young they are.

My thoughts on this are: they are only there to look cute. If they don't want to wear their bow ties, that's fine. If they want to wear sneakers, that's fine. If they decide that they must keep their face paint on, that's fine.
Their mother's will be there at the end of the aisle and if they make it the whole way, great... if not, that's fine too. Whatever they do will look cute, so I'm fine with whatever happens.
I have no expectation whatsoever that they will stand quietly on the aisle during the ceremony.

If you are okay with them maybe not being the perfect ring bearer or flower girl then I would say that they are too young. If you don't really care, I say go for it!

 

[jenna77]

My son, who will be 3 by my wedding will be the ringbearer. I don't know if he'll make it down the aisle at that age, but I really don't care, I just want him to be part of the ceremony. I think that as long as you're not worried about the kids making it down the aisle, you'll be fine.

 

[Bride-to-be]

Our flower girls will be 3 and 4. My mom is anti ring bearers for some reason - if we have one he will be 10 and I think that is a little old anyway.

I think it would be really cute if they didn't quite make it down the isle!!! You just have to have someone take them out into the hall of the hotel the morning of and help them practice. A lot of times before I have seen weddings with younger people being pulled in little decorated wagons. I think it would be great if they just walked together - whether they make it to the end of not.

 

[themagicofdisney]

My flower girl will be 5 and my ring bearer 4. They will walk down the aisle together. my flower girl has been one in another wedding recently so that gives me some relief, but I am still nervous about their performance and how their parents will react. I am planning on letting them sit with their families once I get to the alter.

BUT I always remind myself...I wont even get to see them walk down the aisle until I see the video after! Sooo whatever happens, least I can't see it and stress out!

 

[Promomx2]

My dd works at a day care with infants and 2-3 yr so of course she has plenty of little ones to choose from. She's having a athome wedding, so right now the plan is to have 3 flowergirls, 2,3, and 6. We're just hoping for the best but prepared if anyone doesn't make it down the aisle.

 

[TheDisneyGirl02]

Thank you so much everyone! I really appreciate the input!

 

[MellyBeans]

Personally, I wouldn't have a flower girl/ring bearer any younger than 3 or 4 in my wedding. At a friend's wedding this past summer, his 2 year old niece was the flower girl. She absolutely howled and cried the entire ceremony, while walking down the ailes, and while up at the alter. Finally, her mother had to come up to the front of the church and carry her out. Poor girl was in over her head, and was probably really scared by being seperated from her mother, etc.

I'd say perfect age for this role is between ages 4-8. A four year old can understand what is going on, and shouldn't be too upset by being separated from mom/dad. Any older and they should be bumped up to Junior Bridesmaid status. JMO, of course.

 

[mermaidbride1108]

BUT I always remind myself...I wont even get to see them walk down the aisle until I see the video after! Sooo whatever happens, least I can't see it and stress out!

Thisis the best advice!!!

I'm kinda worried how my FG's and my Ring Bearer will act, but not really that much - my thinking is they are kids and no matter how many times I tell them what to do, they are just going to do what they want anyway, so why stressover it?

I have four Flowers girls (his nieces)
Emily - 5.5
Maggie -4.5
Alyssa - 4
Abbey - 2.5

It's two sets of sister, I couldn't have one set without the other and couldn't have one sister without the other so we are having 4.

I also have a Ring Bearer (my nephew)
Eric - 4

He's the one I'm worried about. His father passed away 11 months ago and he isn't the best behaved understandbly. So I have no idea what to expect from him. One minute he can be sweetly cute and the next a terror.

I'm not even going to plan out who walks with her - my planning is ok, now all the kids go. I don't have any expectations, even if they make it down the aisle.

My only pre-planning is not to give the 2.5 year old FG the basket with petals. I'm not going to spend all that money on a basket & petals (especially DFTW prices) if she isn't going to throw them or dump the basket. I was meet with much disagreement to this by DF's mom, she thinks it will be just so cute if Abbey just dumps the basket Sure, it will let's waste $100 for one second of cuteness. Nope, she'll be just as cute with a rose wand. LOL!

Now my SIL, mother of the 1 & 3rd FG wants to PRACTICE THE KIDS WALKING DOWN THE AISLE! She has opinions on which kid should walk down together - I think I'm going to start calling her Bridesmaidzilla!

 

[littleangie]

for my wedding in june 2010 i am having 2 flower girls and 1 ring bearer. The flower girls will be 2 and 4. The four year old will walk by herself but the 2 year old is going to walk with her mom who is my matron of honour so i thought the best things was to let them walk together but still have the 4 year old and the ring bearer who will be 8 walk in front of me.

 

[eacosta1120]

I agree that those ages may be a bit young. I'm having a 8 yr old FG and we may use my dog as the ring bearer =)