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My guess is that the DH worked hard to separate himself from the family he came from in order to not follow down a bad path and to make something of himself. Once made, he married someone who has zero ability to relate to his family of origin? It might reinforce his own sense of having escaped that life.
But the truth is no one can be this judging of another person without it coming across to everyone involved. An apology is in order, and then a genuine attempt to understand the other person as a person, or some distancing and boundaries.
There is a cognitive behavioral technique called thought-stopping. If you find yourself thinking about something, like everything that's wrong with SIL, you simply stop the thought.
My guess is that the DH worked hard to separate himself from the family he came from in order to not follow down a bad path and to make something of himself. Once made, he married someone who has zero ability to relate to his family of origin? It might reinforce his own sense of having escaped that life.
But the truth is no one can be this judging of another person without it coming across to everyone involved. An apology is in order, and then a genuine attempt to understand the other person as a person, or some distancing and boundaries.
There is a cognitive behavioral technique called thought-stopping. If you find yourself thinking about something, like everything that's wrong with SIL, you simply stop the thought.