My daughter did both the Wonderland Tea Party and the Pirate Adventure Cruise. She was 4. At both, there was a young boy (maybe 3 or 4 years old, it wasn't the same boy both times) who freaked out and refused to do the event. But I don't think it had anything to do with the kid thinking the tea party was girly. It seemed to be entirely about separation anxiety and the pressure of the situation. I don't think a 5-year-old boy would feel out of place in the room, even if it is mostly girls. The Mad Hatter is there and from the pictures, he kept everybody laughing. I'm not sure if an 8-year-old would enjoy it or not. The kids seemed younger than that to me. You decorate and eat a cupcake, decorate your own teapot and cup to take home, and get a little bouquet of flowers.