I can't believe I am responding.
Howver, I have been reading page after page of this hopeless unsolvable thread, and I just HAVE to say that I am going to speak up on the side of the masses here.
Is sitting at a table with my little kids while my husband waits in line to order *rude*? I, personally, don't think so. I can see other people DO think it is rude, and if I am offending you by this practice, my apologies.
HOWEVER! When I am on vacation, on my VERY EXPENSIVE vacation that I have scrimped and saved for, with three very hungry and tired children and a marginally cranky husband, and *we* have the ability to nab a table and sit our tired buttocks down at it while one of the adults goes to order, am I sorry about this? Do I feel guilty? Let me just say OH H*LL NO! If you choose not to do this, your choice. If you cannot do this for one reason or another, I am sorry for that. If you didn't have the foresight to see how crowded the restaurant was and go somewhere else, YOUR choice. Now, if I have finished eating, and see a family looking for a table, you bet I will get right up and offer them my spot. If the table I have is bigger than what my family needs, you bet we will scrunch over and let someone share the table with us. Without question. If I see an elderly couple, or a pregnant lady, or a family with very tiny kids, or a handicapped person who cannot find a table, I would probably offer them my spot and go eat on a bench somewhere.
But if you are just Joe Q. Public and you are annoyed with me cause I happened to be lucky enough or plan ahead enough to grab a table for my family - sorry, no sympathies. As Captain Jack would say - I don't give an a$$ rats how annoyed you are with me. Next time it could just as easily be me how cannot get a table, and be that the case I will go find a nice shady bench somewhere to eat on, and remind myself to plan a little better next time. Sometime you win, sometimes you lose, people, and part of being a grown-up person is realizing that the world DOES NOT revolve around you.
I shall now leave this train wreck of a thread and go back to peacefully lurking elsewhere.