Tell me how to be laid back at Disney! How do you get to do many things AND get to sleep past 6am lol.
Welcome to the club.. I think you actually get more done or more to the point you don't really waste your time on things that don't really matter. My change was both wanting to feel like I had a vacation when done and one day I discovered we spent a half day, nobody was really thrilled and we were just going ride to ride because we thought someone else wanted to ride it in the group... this is when the list of what we don't care about started and it was interesting to see how little we wanted to actually do....
Planning for this is really simple. Where are we staying, what places do we actually care about eating at, getting random rides we don't want to miss fastpasses. Basically 15-20 minutes of planning and we're ready to head over.
going is even easier, you just show up and do what you feel like. If that doesn't match your fastpasses that day, just delete them and do your best for rides you care about. If you pass by a ride you haven't done in awhile and it strikes you, you go in. You will start to notice hundreds of things in rides and around you that you just walked past previously. You'll get happy with just showing up and whatever you ride is great and you know what to skip unless someone says, lets do that! Magic Kingdom not doing it for you or your mind is thinking another park just leave and head there instead.. enjoy yourself and don't be a family of zombies just marching around because you used to think that doing it all was gonig to disney..
Our first couple days looks like a whirlwind though. We like to lap al the parks quick, basically hitting hte 3-4 rides each we care about but seeing what is different or closed or whatever.. basically 2 days of getting the important done and checking out what we didn't hear about and then the rest of hte week we go where the mood and moment takes us...
half day touring style is great. basically you hit a park, you don't overdo it, you don't stay when you hit the zombie feeling like your "forcing the magic" or just going through the motions. You take a break, maybe it's a resort, maybe another resort, maybe you see if you can walk in somehwere for lunch (works better than one might think). then later you head to the park you want to be in that evening. Parks have morning, afternoon and evening things. your just splitting them up and you'll do a whole day or three at mk, just not the same day.. also works great for weather if your in rainy season or it's just too hot or humid.
The secret is forget how you did disney and just go with the flow. Make a list of we don't care about, we care about this trip, and places you might want to try to eat and plan around those lists and do whatever ends up happening when there. You must dos will completely change and will change not only every trip but ever visit of the park on your trip. You'll quicly discover the families favorite park which might not be the one you think already when you start to relaxing visit them. Some trips we're just there for hte food, other we're there for the snacks, sometimes we just need to be there and rides really don't matter at all.