Exhausted from parenting/ASD children/Welcome to Schmolland!

[toodycat]

Originally Posted by kirstenb1

Toodycat, it sounds like you guys are making the best of an icky situation. I just saw your post, and hope you're doing well!!

Thanks so much. Yes, we are OK. We are in our house with electricity and no fallen trees! DS even did all right on the Poly Sci test he took in the midst of our lives as hurricane Nomads.

[Clochette nordique]

Happy New Year 2013 in Schmolland!

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[toodycat]

Happy New Year to the most wonderful parents ever!

[tinkslite]

My daughter ( age 17), diagnosed w/ aspergers, PTSD, and a lower IQ ( but verbally able thus the aspergers rather than autism diagnosis) has been in meltdown mode ALL DAY. We gave meds and she napped for awhile, but started right back in when I said her name......I hate days like this!!! They wear me completely out and make me feel like I am a bad mother!!!!

[Clochette nordique]

Originally Posted by tinkslite

My daughter ( age 17), diagnosed w/ aspergers, PTSD, and a lower IQ ( but verbally able thus the aspergers rather than autism diagnosis) has been in meltdown mode ALL DAY. We gave meds and she napped for awhile, but started right back in when I said her name......I hate days like this!!! They wear me completely out and make me feel like I am a bad mother!!!!

1 hug for each year


Poussière de fée!

[bookwormde]

Certainly not a bad parent.

Our kids get overwhelmed at times no matter where they are on the spectrum.

It is helpful to do a social autopsy reasonably soon after the she decompresses and is rested. Even if you know the primary cause, there are almost always a series of events that brought the stress level up to where there was a major meltdown.

Oh by the way, do not be to over reliant on IQ scales, I have worked with lots of kids who measured 60-80 but were in reality quite intelligent once their particular "style" of intelligence was recognized and supported

[toodycat]

Originally Posted by tinkslite

My daughter ( age 17), diagnosed w/ aspergers, PTSD, and a lower IQ ( but verbally able thus the aspergers rather than autism diagnosis) has been in meltdown mode ALL DAY. We gave meds and she napped for awhile, but started right back in when I said her name......I hate days like this!!! They wear me completely out and make me feel like I am a bad mother!!!!

You're not a bad parent. You're a parent who faces more challenges than others. Hang in there and stay strong.

[tinkslite]

In the last 8 weeks she has been "on her period" for six! Bleeding heavily. I am sitting in the ER right now, waiting for blood work and answers......sigh.

[bookwormde]

Most likely cause is a hormonal imbalance at her age. Might also be a contributor to her recent heightened emotional variability and intensity

[toodycat]

Originally Posted by tinkslite

In the last 8 weeks she has been "on her period" for six! Bleeding heavily. I am sitting in the ER right now, waiting for blood work and answers......sigh.

I hope everything works out and you get information that is helpful. Sending you hugs!

[Clochette nordique]

Originally Posted by toodycat

I hope everything works out and you get information that is helpful. Sending you hugs!

Poussière de fée!

[blondietink]

Also could possibly be a side effect of any medications she might be taking. I once worked with a person with Autism who was taking Risperidol (sp?) and she actually started lactating!

Hope you find the answer. Let us know.

[tinkslite]

Hospital ruled out hemorage of any kind, infection, and a number of other things through blood work. they didn't rule out thyroid issues but are testing (should come back today). one med she is taking has dysfunctional menses as a VERY rare side effect. We will try to get in to family doc later today. ER doc gave her a call, while we were there as a heads up.In the meantime, I am keeping her home from school as she seems very worn out.

[pls5286]

I know I haven't posted about DSS in a while, but we now have full physical and legal custody of him, now 13, will only supervised visitation for his BM. This culminated during Christmas break from school when she had him during the first part of the break. We never got all of the complete details out of what started everything as DSS could not tell us everything and DM would only say he was being a "butthole" but used another term and she could not control him.

Christmas Day some type of altercation occurred between DSS and his mom and he had some type of meltdown. It had to do with the gifts he got for Christmas, we know that. His mom did not like his behavior and put him out of the house! Yes, she put a 13 y/o Aspie outside in the cold rain on Christmas Day. She called my DH and said he can't come back in my house, come get him now. When he asked what was wrong, all she would tell him was he was ungrateful for all she did for him.

His mom live 2 1/2 hours away from us. Our money is extremely tight now and was worse then. We did not have money to buy the kids Christmas. We bought them one gift each. My parents bought the rest. We had no gas for the trip. I told my dad what was going on and he gave me the money and told me "Go get that baby and bring him home." Off we went to get him. When we got there and he was still outside. He was crying and ran up to us soaking wet and freezing. He was begging us to take him to our house. We told him he was going with us and to get in the car to get warm. We went in and got him some dry clothes and his school book bag. That was all we wanted. She said to take him. She could not take him acting like he does.

We got him changed and warm and headed home. Once we got to my parents' we fed him and then took part in the rest of the Christmas activities and loved on our kids. We were not upset that we had to go get him like we did, we were supposed to get him the next day. We were very upset about what she did to him.

We filed a report with DFACS and also filed an emergency custody order for him. We were given temporary emergency custody of him. We now have full legal and physical custody of him! The judge took into account the fact that she will not take him to the doctor. I do a majority of that because my husband works. She will not pick up his prescriptions. We do. She will send him here without meds so we have to pick them up. She will go as far (and has) to call DFACS on us when we couldn't get a prescription for him filled and drive it 30 min to her house for him when she could have driven 10 min to pick it up. Her claim was we were denying him medical care!

His school has made numerous comments that he is doing so much better now that he is living with us. His behavior and his grades have greatly improved. He is now passing every class. His grades improved on average of 15 points per subject except for 1. He has had perfect attendance since being with us as well. He has also had a much better behavior record at school once getting settled back down into our routine.

We are looking into buying a bigger house because our current home is not really big enough to fit our current needs. The boys are 16 and 13 and are piled into one room. They need their own space.

[toodycat]

Love and blessings to you all! I'm sure your DSS is feeling much happier and much more secure in your home. His mom clearly doesn't get it or him. Your Christmas was unbelievable; she is clearly lacking in judgment, parenting skills and compassion. Thank goodness the court grasped that and DSS is safe and sound with you.