Rob and Scott's Big Fat Gay Disney Wedding-TR Pg 92; Photo Update pg 133

[rpmdfw]

Originally Posted by PghLybrt

I am loving this!! I have never known anyone to get maried at Disney, so youare giving great insight! It might be the spot for my sister!

Now on a serious note....i vote no on the chicken dance as well
(of course this might not have been open to debate!!)

Oh, I'll listen to any debate on the chicken dance anybody wants to throw out there. Especially those who are against it!

[OrlandoMike]

Your getting married at Disney World, not some Bowling alley in Milwaukee!

(Nothing against Milwaukee, I've had a lot of fun there!)

But I vote no on the Chicken Dance!

[mykidsintow]

I vote on chicken dance for kids birthday parties. Maybe active 80 yr old birthday party. A 50th wedding anniversary for the right type of outgoing couple.

For a wedding.... I vote no to the chicken dance. Of course this is coming from the person that got married at JOP with some crazy woman with bright blue eyeshadow..... Take it for what you will.

If I was going out of my way to have an awsome memorable wedding and reception at a place such as Disney.... I wouldn't want the chicken dance. Frankly, I wouldn't care what my guests thought. I doubt any will suffer long-term from not having the chicken dance. Of course, this goes back to why I eloped and had the blue eyeshadow woman . If they really need the chicken dance that bad, I would suggest them pairing the wedding trip with a nice baseball game....

[zulemara]

Originally Posted by rpmdfw

zulemara, thank you for posting this and giving me a different perspective on "interactive dances". And we WILL now consider changing the "NO, NOT ANY OF THEM" stance.

That said, the chicken dance is not something we did in my family. The first I ever even heard of it was when I saw it in a movie when I was in college. We have no tradition or memories associated with it and Scott and I both DETEST it. I feel similarly about the cha-cha, electric slide, and mambo #5. I could probably deal with the Hustle, the Macarena (Scott would kill me, though, he hates it) or the even YMCA; though I have to say that I've always thought that a song about gay men cruising at a bathhouse was an inappropriate and odd choice to be played at a wedding and I always crack up when I see all the str8 people rushing out to the dance floor because it's playing.

My thought is that there are plenty of really fun songs that will get us up and dancing without resorting to the "gimmick" dances. I've got "The Twist" on the "must play" list because it never fails to get my entire family on the floor, and at 65 my dad will be the best twister out there. He always was, and it fascinated us as kids.

But, you're right, we do want it to be fun for our guests, and maybe we'll change our minds. Or maybe we'll decide to have Mickey Mouse show up at our reception to dance and see if that takes the places of the gimmicky stuff. (And yes, I realize that Mickey in and of himself is a gimmick at the reception, but it's a gimmick that you ONLY get at Disney, so why the heck not.)

We're also asking them not to play any of the "Gay Anthems" at the reception. So no "I Will Survive" (the song that brings out the inner drag queen in EVERYONE), no "It's Raining Men", no "I'm Coming Out" etc. This may disappoint some people; but to us it seemed like "too much", for the same reason we didn't even consider doing our reception at "The Great Movie Ride" (which is an option Disney offers, by the way.) We thought that cutting the wedding cake at a gay wedding in the Wizard of Oz scene with the Wicked Witch there to say "and you're little dog, too" was just TOO MUCH. Too cliche, too tacky.

Okay, I'll end my rant now. But truly, thank you for your thoughts, and Scott and I will discuss these things again looking at it from the perspective you've provided.

In every job I've had, I try to help people understand the other side of the McDonalds counter, the other side of the retail guy, and the other side of the DJ(which btw is a thankless job)

I have to say though, I'm a little disappointed about no gay anthems Truthfully, I will survive is a song that rarely ever gets played in this area and It's raining men is reserved for garter tosses.

In my opinion, no one knows the hustle and everyone except 9yos hates the Macarena. LOL that is one where if a bride says No macarena I scream with joy! 5 min of the same thing? gosh!

I frequently use Shout, the twist, then twist and shout later on in the night. They have lots of energy and it gets the older crowd dancing after you've been forced to play modern music.

It's a different part of the country and a different family history. 99% of people have one particular genre they like and think it's the only and best genre. I can have a packed dance floor to shout and some snotty 19yo will come up to me and say "play something newer, this old stuff sucks"
then the next person comes off the dance floor after build me up buttercup and says "awesome music, I feel young again"

Then of course there's the dreaded "Can you play soulja boy?" You can put that one on the do not play list

Ok so that was a mini soapbox. I don't get to voice my opinion or challenges about wedding receptions to the public very much, so I kind of took this as my chance to do that and help anyone, not just you two, think about a couple different things.

Best of luck to both of you and I am insanely jealous that you're able to do what you are doing. DBF wants to get married in the fall in MA. We get to honeymoon at WDW or DCL though, so I still get half the Disney feelnig!

[rpmdfw]

Um, I don't even know what "soulja boy" is.

Honestly, we're probably looking at mostly 60s, 70s, and 80s music for our crowd. Don't know of anyone who is in that "late teen/early twenties" demographic that is even coming to the wedding. And thank you for mentioning "Shout" and "Twist and Shout". I'm adding them to the play list.

As Scott and I are both (barely) over 40. We've got folks in their late twenties/early thirties through my parents generation in their sixties and seventies. And a few little kids thrown in to the mix.

[chip007]

Sounds like you had a great time. Congrats!

I'm curious, what other options does Disney have for receptions and what made you pick your location?

[rpmdfw]

Originally Posted by chip007

Sounds like you had a great time. Congrats!

I'm curious, what other options does Disney have for receptions and what made you pick your location?

Disney has LOADS of options! Ceremonies can be held at the Wedding Pavillion, Yacht Club Gazebo, Sea Breeze Point (on the Boardwalk) or at several locations in World Showcase. And there are other locations that are used as well. Sunset Point at the Polynesian, a location at Wilderness Lodge, etc.

Receptions can be held in several unique locations as well as in the ballrooms on property. They also do receptions at the Living Seas private lounge, the American Adventure Rotunda, the American Adventure private lounge, the Piazza in the Italian Pavillion, the Great Movie Ride (it's a progressive reception there--cocktails and appetizers in the gangster section with appropriatly dressed actors to interact with your guests. Dinner in the Western section with cowboy actors, dessert and cake cutting in the Wizard of Oz location with Glinda interacting with guests an the Wicked Witch, then dancing under the "stars" in the black box room where they show the movies at the end of the ride. VERY cool, but not for us).

When they showed us the Atlantic Dance Hall we fell in love with it. It's just the right size for us, it's a gorgeous art deco dance palace. No additional decorations needed. AND because our guest count is as high as it is ( ) we're not spending any more money than if we'd booked a hotel ballroom. The only catch is that if you want an evening reception you have to book Sunday or Monday night because the ADH is open to the public on Tuesday thru Saturday. That's why we're having ours on Sunday.

[zulemara]

Originally Posted by rpmdfw

Um, I don't even know what "soulja boy" is.

Honestly, we're probably looking at mostly 60s, 70s, and 80s music for our crowd. Don't know of anyone who is in that "late teen/early twenties" demographic that is even coming to the wedding. And thank you for mentioning "Shout" and "Twist and Shout". I'm adding them to the play list.

As Scott and I are both (barely) over 40. We've got folks in their late twenties/early thirties through my parents generation in their sixties and seventies. And a few little kids thrown in to the mix.

good! Trust me, you don't want to hear the crap music this "artist" puts out!

We always start old and work new, but if I don't have requests for modern music I usually play 3 songs tops, plus maybe the cha cha. I should just write out my general playlist for weddings and then you can pick and choose which songs you like. Just don't be a "bridezilla" haha

[wallyb]

Originally Posted by rpmdfw

Disney has LOADS of options! Ceremonies can be held at the Wedding Pavillion, Yacht Club Gazebo, Sea Breeze Point (on the Boardwalk) or at several locations in World Showcase. And there are other locations that are used as well.

How about right before the big drop on splash mountain -
new meaning to take the plunge.

[rpmdfw]

Originally Posted by wallyb

How about right before the big drop on splash mountain -
new meaning to take the plunge.

You don't even want to know what a Magic Kingdom ceremony costs!

And then you have to hold the ceremony after the park closes for the night, so it's either book for January, or get hitched at 1am.

[rpmdfw]

Originally Posted by zulemara

good! Trust me, you don't want to hear the crap music this "artist" puts out!

We always start old and work new, but if I don't have requests for modern music I usually play 3 songs tops, plus maybe the cha cha. I should just write out my general playlist for weddings and then you can pick and choose which songs you like. Just don't be a "bridezilla" haha

Actually, I'd love it if you'd send me your playlist. It'd give us a great "starting off point". I'll send you a PM with my email address, if you don't mind.

Oh. And I reserve the right to turn into BRIDEZILLA or GROOMZILLA or GAYZILLA or any combination thereof at any point that a durned well please!

[zulemara]

Originally Posted by rpmdfw

Actually, I'd love it if you'd send me your playlist. It'd give us a great "starting off point". I'll send you a PM with my email address, if you don't mind.

Oh. And I reserve the right to turn into BRIDEZILLA or GROOMZILLA or GAYZILLA or any combination thereof at any point that a durned well please!

oh and last summer I spent countless hours in Barnes n Noble reading every Disney tour book I could get my hands on. From what I've read, an MK package is 40k. So much for a downpayment on a house!

edit: just remember it's the DJ's job to READ the crowd. Every minute detail to how people are dressed to how they dance can indicate what type of music they will enjoy

[rpmdfw]

Originally Posted by zulemara

oh and last summer I spent countless hours in Barnes n Noble reading every Disney tour book I could get my hands on. From what I've read, an MK package is 40k. So much for a downpayment on a house!

edit: just remember it's the DJ's job to READ the crowd. Every minute detail to how people are dressed to how they dance can indicate what type of music they will enjoy

Yeah. From what I hear those tour books are out of date!

And I understand what you're saying about the DJ, and I have no intention of giving them too many restrictions. But I'm curious to see what the list would look like. I'm a big believer in hiring talented professionals and then letting them do their job. That means giving them the leeway to make judgement calls.

[rpmdfw]

Okay, I have to say that I'm very surprised that there aren't more questions about the cake. I show you this picture:



With 8 cake flavors and 10 fillings, and only one person has commented. Nobody is curious about the flavors? What we chose? What the cake will look like?

I expected a lot of questions about that stuff so I could set y'all up for the pic of the cake, but if you're not interested, then we can go back to talking about the chicken dance . . . .

[OrlandoMike]

I vote for Yellow cake with Butter Cream frosting!

Are you having a cake topper of some sort?