Loosing hope about having children

[Mickey'sApprentice]

OP, I'm in the same boat. We've tried for 10 years with no luck. I took fertility drugs but have not done IVF. I'm getting too old to get pregnant (43) and we've decided that we will try to adopt. We had hoped to have our affairs in order by May to go for international adoption. May will be 1 year after completing my PhD. Hubby would not consider IVF while I was still in school. Anyway, one of three schools I teach for fell through on me today. Anyway, we had hoped to go with International and now that seems in jeopardy.

Why does my life keep getting in my way, and why does hubby keep insisting that our life be in order? Plus, I don't know what a social worker will say at this point.

[Interrobang]

My husband and I went through seven years of infertility before conceiving our twins via IVF. It's a painful journey.

I have several friends who had multiple miscarriages that were finally able to sustain a pregnancy by taking progesterone as soon as they found out they were pregnant. It's also something that they have you take when you do IVF. I'd highly recommend you see a reproductive endocrinologist if you aren't already and discuss progesterone. It's easy to take. I've always done ******l suppositories and friends took it orally.

[Lisaren]

Hearing the success stories does give hope, but it does not make your heart hurt any less. My husband and I tried for nine years to have a baby. I felt like a failure and less like a woman. We were lucky because we only had one miscarriage during that time. We finally decided to start infertility treatments and made an appointment because I was going on 30. Two days before the appointment to get a referral to an infertility specialist, I found out I was pregnant and began spotting. I was terrified, but everything was fine. My wonderful daughter is now 14 and I had no problems getting pregnant the second time with my now 11 year old son.
Some go the adoption route, some decide just to enjoy the family they have, some manage to suceed with IVF or other options, and some just get lucky. Just do what is right for you and your family (you and your husband are a family no matter what it may feel like).

[Deesknee]

Dear Lemonaidmouth, You came to my mind today, so I decided to log in & see if you have any news. I am hoping you came to my mind because beautiful things are happening for you.

[Lemonademouth]

Originally Posted by Deesknee

Dear Lemonaidmouth, You came to my mind today, so I decided to log in & see if you have any news. I am hoping you came to my mind because beautiful things are happening for you.

No news yet. We are in the looking for a surge on the OPK's stage of this cycle. We skipped last month because I had a 5cm cyst on my left ovary. This month it had gone down half the size on it's own. My doctor switched me to clomid, and we will be doing another IUI once I get my positive surge. All fingers and toes are crossed. It is my birthday month and it would be an awesome birthday present!!! In fact aunt flo is due on my birthday. so I'm hoping and praying.

[Deesknee]

Originally Posted by Lemonademouth

No news yet. We are in the looking for a surge on the OPK's stage of this cycle. We skipped last month because I had a 5cm cyst on my left ovary. This month it had gone down half the size on it's own. My doctor switched me to clomid, and we will be doing another IUI once I get my positive surge. All fingers and toes are crossed. It is my birthday month and it would be an awesome birthday present!!! In fact aunt flo is due on my birthday. so I'm hoping and praying.

March is a month of beautiful people I love dearly's birthday. Hopes and prayers you receive the ultimate birthday gift. Happy Birthday. I have loved ones whose birthdays are... 5th, 7th,16th,18th,20th,24th and 28th!!! I love March! And IF you conceive in March there is a possiblity your baby could share my January bday....depending when in March. Regardless...good luck with the surgeon. I was on clomid at one point. Best of luck. fingers and toes crossed here for you also.

[tlkscott]

Without reading the whole strand, have you been tested for Factor V, MTHFR protein s and c, and other clotting factors? I have had four m/c. I had to double the amount of Lovenox I took in order to carry my my son to term. Lots of doctors will say that Factor V and so on does not cause early m/c just late term loss. However, there is newer research showing otherwise. (((HUGS))) I was almost 39 before we got our son.

[rewardsinlife]

Now, this may sound bizarre, but I have known at least 3 couples in my lifetime who had the same difficulty in conceiving ( some with medical problems and some without) that were able to have a child after they gave up trying so hard and just became happy with each other.
Ex.
1st couple: no medical problems but couldn't seem to get pregnant after 10 years of trying...after that they determined it wasn't meant to be. Adopted a child, and a year later the adopted child got an unplanned sibling! Relaxing and not having the pressure of counting best fertility times..etc. helped.

2nd couple: thyroid had to be taken completely out for cancer and had to take hormones...told she would never have a child. Also, she was obese and lost about 60 pounds. She now has a cute 2 year old girl.

3rd couple: had cervical cancer and had to have cervix completely take out. Told she would never have a child. Had 8 miscarriages. Given up and said she must have dogs as her adopted kids. 4 months later...she got pregnant, had a high risk pregnancy but carried to full term. She now has a healthy 4 year old girl.

So give up...but not entirely? Relaxing, making things fun and not freaking out worrying if it happens or not seems to be the key