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Old 12-10-2012, 09:52 PM   #1
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My hubby is bored with Disney!!!

Oh my. After 8 years in a row of going to Disney, my hubby decided when he got there that he is over Disney. I know! We always go for 5 nights, and I have hoped one year to do a bit longer.

So now the plan is, he will go to Disney with me for 2 days then head down to Tampa with friends for 2 days while I finish out my Disney trip.

Does anyone have a SO that isn't much into Disney?
It's borderline grounds for divorce! LOL

I need to get me a Disney buddy for those couple days
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Old 12-10-2012, 10:13 PM   #2
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Well, at least you got 8 beautiful years!

My wife tolerates Disney, but definitely doesn't love it like I do. I would happily go every year, but there's no way she'd agree...so the compromise is every few years.
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Old 12-10-2012, 10:35 PM   #3
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I took my DH as a surprise for his 30th birthday. It was his first time to WDW and he loved (loved!) it!

We are going again this January - 6 years later. He loved it but was like "ah - we've done it let's go somewhere else." I think the only reason he's going this time is because I told him it was what I wanted for my birthday this year. And he'll probably love it again this time!

I've actually gone a couple of times between the trip 6 years ago and this upcoming trip because I went with my parents and a kid they are raising right now.

In all honesty (I hope they don't kick me off the Boards) but I couldn't go every year either. I really just want to go again with him because we had so much fun on the first trip. Then I think I will be O.K for a few years.
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Old 12-10-2012, 10:44 PM   #4
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Hehe. Well at least he's not the only one with a bad attitude
Just kidding.

I'm happy that we came up with a solution. I don't want to feel like I'm making him do something he's not enjoying. His big thing is the whole 5 days. I could and will go each year. I hate when I have to leave. I start planning for the following year.

Thanks for the comments so far.
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Old 12-11-2012, 12:29 AM   #5
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My hubby is definitely not a Disney person. We get to Orlando once or twice a year (my sister and parents have all moved there in the last year), but I'm lucky if I get two days in the park with him. This year, we did Epcot Food and Wine, so next year, I'm thinking Christmas, and then maybe back to Gay Days the year after.
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Old 12-11-2012, 11:10 AM   #6
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Oh my. After 8 years in a row of going to Disney, my hubby decided when he got there that he is over Disney. I know! We always go for 5 nights, and I have hoped one year to do a bit longer.
I notice from your signature block that you always go in December and always stay at the Yacht Club. Of course, I am only speaking for myself since I don't know if this is part of your husband's objection, but if we went to the exact same place at the same time every year for vacation, I would definitely develop the been-there-done-that feeling.

My bf was not a Disney-phile when we met, but he has quickly become one, in large part because the experiences are so different every time we go. Our last two trips are great examples. Last new year, we stayed at AKL and had our morning coffee on our balcony every day while watching giraffes and zebras. Then a couple months ago, we stayed in a Treehouse Villa at SSR and loved the feeling of escaping to nature after a day surrounded by people at the parks. (Let me tell you, I am a city boy through and through, but cracking open a bottle of wine and sitting on the deck surrounded by nothing but trees and sounds of nature after a day of crushing crowds and screaming kids was fantastic.) We also try to plan something non-parks related midway through our trip like a tour, the Richard Petty Driving Experience, a spa day, or a day at Discovery Cove or the Kennedy Space Center. The variety definitely works...I already have two Disney trips planned for next year with no complaints from him.

I wonder if mixing it up a bit might reinvigorate your husband's interest in WDW as a destination. Maybe bring him for a special event like Food & Wine or Flower & Garden, stay at a resort that is drastically different from YC, and plan a non-parks day in the middle of your stay?
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Old 12-11-2012, 11:56 AM   #7
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I notice from your signature block that you always go in December and always stay at the Yacht Club. Of course, I am only speaking for myself since I don't know if this is part of your husband's objection, but if we went to the exact same place at the same time every year for vacation, I would definitely develop the been-there-done-that feeling.

My bf was not a Disney-phile when we met, but he has quickly become one, in large part because the experiences are so different every time we go. Our last two trips are great examples. Last new year, we stayed at AKL and had our morning coffee on our balcony every day while watching giraffes and zebras. Then a couple months ago, we stayed in a Treehouse Villa at SSR and loved the feeling of escaping to nature after a day surrounded by people at the parks. (Let me tell you, I am a city boy through and through, but cracking open a bottle of wine and sitting on the deck surrounded by nothing but trees and sounds of nature after a day of crushing crowds and screaming kids was fantastic.) We also try to plan something non-parks related midway through our trip like a tour, the Richard Petty Driving Experience, a spa day, or a day at Discovery Cove or the Kennedy Space Center. The variety definitely works...I already have two Disney trips planned for next year with no complaints from him.

I wonder if mixing it up a bit might reinvigorate your husband's interest in WDW as a destination. Maybe bring him for a special event like Food & Wine or Flower & Garden, stay at a resort that is drastically different from YC, and plan a non-parks day in the middle of your stay?
I think this is a really good point!! As I mentioned above, when I took my DH for his 30th birthday he loved it but has that feeling of "been there done that" when thinking about going back. Last time we stayed at WL for 3 nights, park hopped, and ate a couple good TS meals. This time we're staying at AKL for 5 nights, not park hopping so we can be more relaxed (1 park each day), and doing a lot of signature restaurants (which I hope live up to their reputation). My goal is to still make it a fun experience for him but different.
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Old 12-11-2012, 12:05 PM   #8
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My husband is also one that tolerates Disney b/c my family loves it (& pays for it most of the time). He boycotted and refused to go at all with us in 2011. He missed a great time, it was our first time doing MNSSHP.

Anyway, this year my parents surprised us with a Disney Cruise instead of a park vacation. It was amazing and he absolutely loved it as much as the rest of us did, even though it was Disney. Now we both would rather cruise instead of the parks (for few years at least)! The kicker: I suggested trying out another cruiseline and he turned down the offer. He said he doesn't think another cruiseline would be able to top DCL!

So that is our comprise! I highly recommend it for a reluctant SO.
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Old 12-11-2012, 12:30 PM   #9
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I think a cruise is a terrific idea--maybe a trip to Disneyland. My DH will not go on criuses and hates to physically travel anywhere. If they ever develope a commercial teleportation device he will be the first in line.

But I can get him to Disney...so I have the opposite problem...getting him to go other places. But you gotta love a man who loves it as much as me.

I think you have a great plan and he will not feel pushed. I know when DH goes to AK for the day he loves to take pictures..and pictures..and pictures. he one time waited 2 hours to get great shots of the gorillas and the new baby. For me that is absolute torture--waiting on him when I could do a million other things. So we decided several years ago that one day each trip is his camera day--and I head to the pool. Perfect.
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Old 12-11-2012, 08:42 PM   #10
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I love the idea of going different times of the year and staying at a different resort. Our family has been spring, summer, fall, and Christmas. We have stayed at all the values, a couple of moderates, and AKL and WL. Each trip we try to do something we have not done before. The EPCOT segway tour is great. A couple of the times we went to Kennedy Space Center, my husband and kids enjoyed the tour there as well. We eat at one new restaurant each visit. But...our whole family looks forward to our WDW vacations. My son and I are going to do the Disney Dream Cruise in March. We have never done a cruise before so are anxious to see how we like it. Enjoy your vacation and try something new while you're there.
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Old 12-16-2012, 07:21 PM   #11
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My partner 100% dislikes WDW (we don't use the "h8" word in our family.....). We have been twice together; total disasters for both of us. That's OK. Here's what we do; we fly to Fort Lauderdale, I drop him off at a gay guesthouse, I drive up to Orlando for 2-3 days then drive back down. It works for us. I don't mind being on my own at WDW.
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Old 12-17-2012, 09:36 PM   #12
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Thanks again for all of your suggestions and stories. The interesting thing is we are very much the kind of people that like going to the same places, staying in the same hotel, etc. I think he knows there's a casino a short ride away, LOL.
But now that we have a game plan in place, it will all be good. Wish we didn't have to go through his melt down in the middle of our vacation. Never experienced that with him before in the 9 years we've been together.

DisneyLand is on the list for when we decide to take a trip to the West Coast. In general, we are not ones to do cruises. I do hear lots of great stories and trip reports, but it's not something we would consider. We have done different thing to switch up events. We've done the backstage tour, Sea World, Universal, Nubia, etc. I'm open to doing different things. Staying at the Yacht Club is what works for us both. We love the location and we stay there by choice. It's great having Epcot and Beaches n Cream right there.

Hubby is heading to Kentucky for the Derby in May. I was thinking about heading down to Disney that weekend, but the crowd calendar has some very high numbers for that weekend. I never been to Disney with a 9 out of 10 crowd level. I'm not much of an early morning person to get up and in the parks by 9am. But with that type of crowd, I would have to each day. Then I have to find me a Disney buddy.

Looking forward to hearing more stories
Keep them coming. They make me feel better about it all, LOL.
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Old 12-18-2012, 02:45 PM   #13
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My lovely wife is nowhere near the Disney geek as I am but she has accompanied me on every trip. She's super easy-going and generally positive but I know she probably would never have chosen Disney as a vacation if left to her own devices.

I've toned down my commando touring and instead we spend a lot of time enjoying the resort, catching some rays and enjoying leisurely meals. It basically turns into a week long date! She's a runner so she ran the WDW marathon last January, which she loved. She loves the outdoors so we stay at Wilderness Lodge and take in the scenery. We're also from Montreal, so a winter trip to the world means getting away from the snow and that enough delights her.

But it's the most unexpected things that she has enjoyed. You'd swear a unicorn had just magically appeared in front of her when she first saw the Electrical Water Pageant. And the gluten-free fried chicken at 50's Prime Time.
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I've always felt "enough is enough" after spending a week at disney. Then a year or 2 later, I need my disney fix. When it comes down to it, there is not a happier place on earth than disney.
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Oh my. After 8 years in a row of going to Disney, my hubby decided when he got there that he is over Disney. I know! We always go for 5 nights, and I have hoped one year to do a bit longer.

So now the plan is, he will go to Disney with me for 2 days then head down to Tampa with friends for 2 days while I finish out my Disney trip.

Does anyone have a SO that isn't much into Disney?
It's borderline grounds for divorce! LOL

I need to get me a Disney buddy for those couple days
Yep...dump him...
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