Planning a Trip with Grumpy

Fia · Nov 24, 2015

I am planning an adult only trip to WDW in September 2016. I love Disney and I'm really excited about this trip. My Husband however is not a Disney fan and is being grumpy about planning. He wants to know why I have to start planning now? Why do we want to go to Disney when it costs so much?
I have tried to explain how I'm saving us money by planning now and how I'm saving money doing some other things. He just isn't excited about this trip at all. I've asked him several times if he wants me to plan it as a girls trip instead of an adult trip and he says no he wants to go. How do I get him involved and excited about this trip?

ars0525 · Nov 24, 2015

Tell him about things along the way, but don't overwhelm him with too much Disney info (it can get overwhelming for those that don't enjoy the planning part). Come here to these boards if you need to share your excitement. lol Ask for his opinion on eating/restaurants, but if he doesn't want to choose then you do it. Same for the FP+...if he won't help decide you do it.

Perhaps when he gets on site & gets inside the 1st park & sees some happy moment he will have a break thru & start to enjoy it. Or wap him upside the head & say "listen we are going to have fun on this trip cause do you know what it cost???" (that's the line I hear parents yelling at their kids all the time) :rotfl:

Fia · Nov 24, 2015

LOL! Thanks ars0525! So basically I treat him like a kid. I can do that. I was just hoping he would have as much fun planning as I do. I suppose it is more important from him to actually have fun on the vacation though and not as much planning it. Oh well ill still do my happy dance! :banana:

ajrwdwgirl · Nov 24, 2015

He's probably just not excited about it yet because it is far away. My husband never gets as excited as I do for any trip until we are a couple months away. I would just do your planning, and as it starts getting closer to the 180 mark he might get more into planning.

ChimCher-ee · Nov 24, 2015

I gave up two trips ago and now leave my Grumpy home. I bring him a traditional souvenir mug though, and every morning he is either the "I hate mornings" or the simple but elegant "Stubborn/No!" Grumpy.

You can lead a horse to water...

Mome Rath · Nov 25, 2015

There are those who like to plan and those that don't. The key is to figure out which a person is and then respect that. A friend of mine is not a planner at all, and I figured out that I'm free to plan and that builds excitement for me, but if I try to plan with him, it actually kills it for him. So, I plan on my own and leave him alone. lol

ludari · Nov 25, 2015

Maybe you should asks Grumpy if he's interested in anything at WDW. Maybe a round of golf, a particular tour, quite time alone in the room while you hit the parks, checking out a game at the ESPN area, etc.

Fia · Nov 25, 2015

Thanks for all the great tips. I talked to him about how much he wanted to help plan if at all and when he thought he might be ready for some of my ideas for what he might enjoy. He isn't opposed to listening to me talk about the trip he just doesn't want to. He also said that when I start looking at FP and Dinner reservations he will help with that. As long as its not right now. lol

spiceycat · Nov 25, 2015

ludari said:
Maybe you should asks Grumpy if he's interested in anything at WDW. Maybe a round of golf, a particular tour, quite time alone in the room while you hit the parks, checking out a game at the ESPN area, etc.

I agree with this. there are a ton of things to do at WDW besides the parks. Does he even like theme parks? if not - there is boating, fishing, tennis, golf, volleyball, basketball, lots of great gyms, bowling (DS), theatre (DS). etc

J'Adore Disney · Nov 25, 2015

Fia said:
How do I get him involved and excited about this trip?

I have a Grumpy too... my Grumpy gets upset when he sees large crowds and immediately wants to run out of the park and to the hotel.

My best advice to you is STAY ON PROPERTY!!!! If possible, stay at a resort where he can easily walk into and out of a park. (i.e. Contemporary or any of the Boardwalk area resorts).

And … GOOD LUCK!!!

Fia · Nov 25, 2015

J'Adore Disney I just read your thread. Im so sorry about your trip with your Grumpy! I will admit that Im afraid my Grumpy will feel the same. Ive even asked him several times if he is SURE he wants to go. Every time he assures me he does. But I know its not really his thing and he is going to spend time with me and my brother and his wife. Crossing my fingers ..

NH-to-FL · Nov 25, 2015

J'Adore Disney said:
My best advice to you is STAY ON PROPERTY!!!! If possible, stay at a resort where he can easily walk into and out of a park. (i.e. Contemporary or any of the Boardwalk area resorts).

I second this recommendation. Since you said this was an adults only trip I suggest one of the Epcot resorts, BWI, BC, YC, or S&D. It will cost a bit more but I feel it is worth it for the convenience of wandering in and out of Epcot.

J'Adore Disney · Nov 25, 2015

Fia said:
J'Adore Disney I just read your thread. Im so sorry about your trip with your Grumpy! I will admit that Im afraid my Grumpy will feel the same. Ive even asked him several times if he is SURE he wants to go. Every time he assures me he does. But I know its not really his thing and he is going to spend time with me and my brother and his wife. Crossing my fingers ..

Well... look on the bright side, if your husband gets upset or overwhelmed, he can go back to the hotel and you can enjoy Disney with your brother and his wife! When my kids were smaller and my husband had had enough of Disney, he would go back to the hotel and my kids and I would stay in the park until our hearts content!

lustergirl · Nov 25, 2015

Save money and aggravation: he can stay at home, lol.

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