FreeDiningFanatic
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- Aug 18, 2015
So now it looks like my mom doesn't want to go to Ireland. She's upset she doesn't have a biz class seat. She's upset w/ the time of year we're going. She's upset that we're going "too short". I've booked hotels for 3, which I'm sure you know are harder to find. So now I need to go back and look at booking hotels for 2. She hasn't decided 100%, but she seems pretty set in her ways. I've thought about asking my 18yo to give up her seat for my mom, but again, this was her bday trip. I could give up my seat, but if I do that, I would try to non-rev instead on Delta. But then there is a chance I won't get there at all. So I'm super torn. I'm going to talk to her about it this weekend. But I think she wants a summer trip for closer to 2 weeks. TBH, I don't want to do something that long, LOL.
I'm a people pleaser, and so I am very much taking on the "guilt" of my mom not going. This trip was planned for 13 years, then fell apart. And now keeps falling apart. I worry what if she never gets to go later (esp after suddenly losing my dad). I'm struggling to deal with it all. It is not fun!
I think you're struggling because you know in your heart is was never right that a flight wasn't selected with three available business class seats. And the fact that your mom's cancer has returned, and there's still no courtesy to exchange seats with her, is probably a cause for a lot of her hurt. I could see how one could get the impression that they're not honored or valued. My guess is that calendar dates and length of trip are just reasons to back out of the trip because she is hurt.
Dreaming about a trip and actually planning/booking a trip are different things. Booking things with longer lead times in the future will likely result in less stress.