Do you call your in-laws mom and dad?

[Buzz Rules]

Do you call your in-laws mom and dad?

 

[CdnCarrie]

I call them by their first names.

 

[2letterwords]

I call them by their first names.

 

[slo]

This is a super tough one for me, so I answered other.
I know they want me to call them mom & dad, but I just can’t do it. I love them, but they are not my mom and dad. Therefore, I call them nothing, and if I have to address them and my DD is with, then I’ll call them Grandma Jean and Grandpa Steve. If my parents are there, then I will call them just Jean & Steve. If nobody is there and I need to address them, then I will approach them and just start talking. Rarely will I call for them from across the room. The whole thing is just so awkward for me. When my DD gets married the first thing I’m doing is telling her new husband to please call us by our first name, unless THEY want to call us mom and dad. I/we will respect whatever they want to do.

 

[Annabell]

Yes, I do call them mum and dad.

 

[luvnwdwgal]

I can’t say on these boards what I call my mother-in-law. I did call my father-in-law “dad” though. He was the nicest man ever. How he put up with his witch of a wife for over 70 years is mind blowing.

 

[loves to dive]

Nope I call them by their first names. I'm a lot older than hubby (13 years) and his mom is only about 7 years older than me. I called my ex-MIL Mrs. (insert last name). My ex-FIL was dead by the time I married my ex. She was very much older than me and I'm southern so no way could I call her by her first name and I had a Mama and Daddy. Both my ex and my current called my parents by their first names (both my parents are now dead). I do/did call hubby's grandparents either by their first names or Granny (insert last name) or Pa (insert last name) depending on if I was talking to hubby or them. His mom's parents I usually called by their first name, his dad's were Granny and Pa.

 

[tvguy]

I called them by their first names. When our kids came around, they were most often just Grandpa and Grandma.

 

[lynxstch]

I called them by their first names. When our kids came around, they were most often just Grandpa and Grandma.

Ditto

 

[nw6675]

My MIL had already passed, FIL was always Pop or Claude

 

[Boopuff]

I jokingly tell my Son-inl-aw to call me "mother Lastname" but they just call me by my first name

 

[White Cat]

Yes. My mother in law is like a queen to me. A true gracious and mannerly Canadian Lady.

 

[Pooh2]

I call my in-laws by their first name.

Our kids spouses call us by our first name.
I think it was a bit of a transition after calling us Mr and Mrs during their high school dating years.

 

[Praying Colonel]

I call them by their first names, or their grandparent names.

 

[TwoMisfits]

I call them by their first names, or their grandparent names.

Yep, they want 1st names - but I usually switch to their grandparent names, especially with grandkids around (which I always have when we visit)...

 

[mumto3girls]

I am similar to Slo in that my MIL very much wanted me to call them mom and dad, but I just couldn’t do it. I really felt like that was for parents, and only my parents. Although I told MIL that at some point around the time we got married, she never offered first names. I think it was also tricky because we started dating in high school in the 1980’s when most of us called out friends’ parents Mr. & Mrs. Last Name and first names would have been considered disrespectful. So basically I tried not to call them anything, used Grandma and Pap once the kids came along and called her Mrs. Last Name long after Mrs. Last Name was also my name whenever I was really stuck.

Middle DD has a fairly serious boyfriend (as serious as it can be at 19) and he called me Mrs. Last Name last night and I was thinking I should tell him just use my first name.

DH also did not call my parents anything until about 30 years in when my dad told him to use his first name. My mom was already deep into dementia so he never used her first name.

 

[Meriweather]

I had a mother and father, so called the in-laws by their first names.
My DIL calls us by our first names.....and I don't want her to call me mom.

 

[1420Elexismc]

I call them Memere and Grandpa to their faces or refer to them as "your mom" or "your dad" when speaking about them to my husband...I call them by their first names when speaking about them to my sister in law(she also married into the family) or anyone else

 

[DisneyHardin]

My in-laws would like for me to call them Mom and Dad and they often refer to themselves as that to me, but I call them by their first name.

 

[TraderStitch]

Speaking only from my experiences, I believe the whole first name thing is something mainly White people do. (Why I don't know.) My wife is Asian and I'm White; I wouldn't dare call her parents by their first names out of respect. (Same thing occurs in her cousin's families as well)

My sister is married to a white guy and they both call his dad and step mom by their first names and they encourage it.

To each their own.